Do you wish you could have sex with the lights on?
Fully expressed, uninhibited, with your shirt off, kind of sex?
Can you imagine sex without...
- Your insecurites controlling your every move
- Being hyperfocused on the way you look
- Only staying in one position to hide certain parts of your body
- Feeling uncomfortable naked
- Being afraid to speak up about what you want
- Pleasure at a standstill because you’re so on guard
As the story goes, according to every romcom ever made, sex *should* look like toes curling, being thrown against a door, naked in the hallway, moaning till dawn.
It’s the movies though, a perfectly curated and mostly unrealistic representation.
A story as wild as it may be, you’d like to be yours.
Maybe you don’t need the whole nine yards, but you do crave…
- The idea of being able to take your jeans off without worrying about what your stomach is doing
- Asking for what you want during sex without thinking you’re offending someone
- Sex without holding back because you’re scared your body, and parts are weird
- Having sex, shame free
- Pleasurable, enjoyable sex
Is your relationship with your body holding you back from having sex comfortably and confidently?
It’s nearly impossible to completely express yourself and enjoy sex when you’re in your head, thinking your body is wrong.
Being stripped down to your bare skin can feel uncomfortable. Every part of your external being is exposed: the dimples, the markings, the rolls of fat, the hair, the unsymmetrical boobs and all the other details that come with being human.
All of that, all of you—is seen, completely.
Part of the reason you feel uncomfortable naked is because you believe those parts of your body are disgusting and undesirable. How could anyone want to have sex with you, with all of that?
It's no suprise as to why you feel uncomfortable undressed and expressed.
But, here's the truth: it isn’t your body that needs to change—it’s the stories you’re telling yourself about your body that need to be changed.
And I'm going to teach you how.
It’s time to stop denying yourself the pleasure and confidence you’re worthy of.
Hi, I’m Devon Day Moretti. I'm a personal trainer, body image coach, and sexual educator.
My work started years ago teaching women how to take care of and feel good in their bodies. And as a trainer, I saw a pattern: womxn came to me wanting to change their bodies, because they hated them.
The work was never really about lifting weights or eating certain foods. When they came to me crying about the cookie they ate, it wasn't really about the cookie—it was about their body.
They came to me embarassed because of the way they looked. They thought, "if I change this about myself, I'll feel comfortable wearing a bikini...or, finally be able to have sex with the lights on."
My passion moved from personal training to uncovering the reason most womxn start working with a personal trainer.
And I get it.
I understood their pain all too well, because I once was there.
There was a time in my life where I couldn’t have sex without listening to the nagging voice in my head. The voice that told me my body wasn't sexy and unflattering; that I’m not good enough or pretty enough; to put my clothes back on so I don’t gross out my partner.
I wanted to have sex—the electrifying sex everyone talks about—but that voice captured any possibility of it happening.
So, I came up with what seemed like logical solution to "fix" my confidence—ya know, change my body, because "looking good naked" somehow equates to confidence, right?
Fueled by hate, I dieted and exercised obsessively until I reached 100lbs. I achieved the "aspired" look that was supposed to grant me all the confidence in the world.
But guess what?
It only exacerbated the problem—I ended up with eating disorder and was further trapped into thinking something was wrong with me.
This is important (!!!):
Changing your body, exercising, and dieting can lead to increased confidence because you’re taking control of your life and doing things to help you feel better in your body. But the idea that all your problems will be fixed by changing your body is the exact notion that’s sabotaging your ability to conquer it.
Because...𝐘𝐨𝐮 𝐝𝐨𝐧’𝐭 𝐧𝐞𝐞𝐝 𝐭𝐨 𝐜𝐡𝐚𝐧𝐠𝐞 𝐲𝐨𝐮𝐫 𝐛𝐨𝐝𝐲, 𝐲𝐨𝐮 𝐧𝐞𝐞𝐝 𝐭𝐨 𝐜𝐡𝐚𝐧𝐠𝐞 𝐭𝐡𝐞 𝐫𝐞𝐥𝐚𝐭𝐢𝐨𝐧𝐬𝐡𝐢𝐩 𝐲𝐨𝐮 𝐡𝐚𝐯𝐞 𝐰𝐢𝐭𝐡 𝐲𝐨𝐮𝐫 𝐛𝐨𝐝𝐲.
I know what it's like to feel uncomfortable in your body. To constantly find yourself saying, "Wait! Lights off please, haha!’ like it wasn’t a big deal, but to you, it always has been.
Fitness led me to sex, which led me to you, and your realtionship with sex, your body, confidence, and everything you wish you would have learned in sex Ed.
Are you ready to have sex with the lights on?
"I am blown away! Devon hit this out of the park. This is a one stop shop for all things body confidence, body exploration, and of course, comfort in the bedroom. But think again if you think this is just a course on sex! I finished the course with tools for even my worst body image days and how to have kinder conversations with myself to get out of my head and into my life and world around me with no distractions. It’s given me tools around uncomfortable sex situations and how to understand myself, my needs, and my boundaries better. Every woman needs this in her tool box."
-Sarah Manns
LET ME TELL YOU A SECRET...
It’s not about the lights being on or off. Personally, I love the lights off sometimes because it feels darker, hotter, sexier.
It’s about why the lights are off.
If the lights are off because you’re..
- Afraid you won’t be desired if you’re seen fully as you are, in all your shapes, sounds, and textures.
- Unable to communicate what you want because of the potential let down of your partner.
- Taking every look and phrase your partner says to you personally.
- Scared to explore your body, and someone elses, because you don’t know what to do, or feel like you might ‘mess up’, or look silly.
If this is why for you...
...then we have a deeply rooted internal problem. Nothing a kama sutra book, or PornHub could solve for you.
What if you could...
- Have with the sex lights on or off and feel like you could move, make sounds, be as fully ‘you’ as you want to be without an ounce of thought going into what you’re doing?
- Stop feeling this need to be performative when you’re having sex with your partner?
- Feel confident communicating with your partner?
- Stop berating yourself and your body in and out of bed, so you could begin to simply be and exist without exhausting yourself over your body?
- Understand how to enhance your experience in the bedroom with yourself and your partner? Knowing what you liked, and didn’t.
- Enjoy sex, and not feel like it’s something on a checklist you have to do with your partner.
WHAT IF YOU COULD FINALLY ENJOY SEX?
I know sex is exhausting you right now, and it’s not because you’re loving the hell out of the actual experince, it’s because you’re running sex like the final play of the superbowl.
All eyes on you, and if you do the wrong thing, make the wrong move, the whole thing goes to shit.
How fucking tired are you of runing plays? Of performing?
(and not in the dominatrix kind of way)
Babe.
You can have the kind of sex you crave.
With yourself, and whoever the hell else you want to be in bed with (or the floor, in bathroom, car, dressing room).
SEX WITH THE LIGHTS ON
A course designed to teach you how to feel comfortable in your body and in the bedroom. Here is where you learn all the education you wish you would have learned in sex ed so you can *finally* be touching, moving, and exploring in all the ways you want to be.
The course is delivered through video, written content, and offer homework assigments at the end of each segment and will cover:
MODULE 1:
Beginning Body Image Breakthrough
Spend six weeks with me as we go through why you feel the way you do about your body, so you begin to understand yourself, and your actions. Giving yourself the freedom to begin to respond instead of react to each thought.
You'll come out of these first six weeks with…
Week 1: Radical Acceptance Week 2: Understanding your inner mean girl and knowing how to shut her up Week 3: Tools to overcome body image insecurities Week 4: Self-connection Week 5: Being able to not take things so personally Week 6: Body respect
VALUED AT: $497
MODULE 2:
The Truth About Sex
The movies create expectations and standards I know you’ve allowed yourself to believe true. In this module you’ll learn about the not-so-sexy parts about sex. Noises, throwing up on a dick (or maybe this was just me?), fluids, things that go ‘wrong’, and what to do about it all.
VALUED AT: $97
MODULE 3:
The Stuff You Wish You Learned In Sex Ed
I know you learned about STI’s in school, while the whole class laughed. But what about the stuff you *really* wanted to learn about?
We’re covering it here…
- How to navigate conversations about your sexual health with your partners
- What it looks like and means to be sexually responsible
- How to talk to potential partners about testing
- What to ask, and how to ask it
VALUED AT: $297
MODULE 4:
Extraordinary Exploration
How do you know what you like and don’t like? How do you know when you should mix things up, if you should, and how? In module 3 you’re going to be given the tools to understand what to do to create the most epic experience now that you finally feel at home in your body.
You’ll learn...
- How to discover your personal brand of sexy
- The importance of self-exploration
- How to enhance your experiences
- The most vital parts of communication
VALUED AT: $197
MODULE 5:
She Says Yes
Have a strong boundary? Afraid to speak up? Struggle to put yourself first? In this last module we’re making consent sexy, creating boundaries, practicing enforcing them + talking about all of the other empowering parts of having a consensual, safe, and fun experience.
VALUED AT: $97
"I learned how to go and explore my own body, which was different and fun and exciting."
-Kristal
"One thing I loved about Sex With the Lights On is the worksheets attached. There are actionable steps to take."
-Sophia
“I laughed, I cried, and I wanted to reach into the screen and hug you. There was an 11 year old version of me that wondered if her vulva was weird, and a 21 year old version of me that was performative in bed—afraid to be seen, and there’s the me now, 26 and sure that sex is messy, and I am whole. This course hugs, loves, teaches and holds the space for all of the parts you that you once abandoned in the name of performative roles you thought you needed to play in order to be loved, and experience pleasure. Devon is a powerhouse of a teacher, with an ability to create warmth and deep understanding through a screen, and through her words unlike any coach I know. Even if you think you don’t need this, you do.”
- Rachel Turner
“Absolutely loved Sex With The Lights On! I’ve always struggled with having conversations with my partners about boundaries and sexual health and Devon helped me so much in navigating those difficult conversations. It’s truly made my bedroom experience that much more enjoyable.”
-Julia Parzyck
"Contrary to the name, it's not just focused on sex - it is about you. It's about your confidence, your self-love, your self-accptance. Because if you don't have those things, personally, you're never going to feel confident in the bedroom, you're never going to feel confident in a sexual situation - because you're not comfortable and being comfortable is the single most important thing."
-Rachel
FREQUENTLY ASKED QUESTIONS
Q: When do I get access to the course?
As soon as you finilize the payment, you’ll be redirected to create a password for login purposes, and then you'll receive an email to confirm your account. Once you confirm your email, you’ll be able to access the course. If you have any troubles, please contact devondmoretti@gmail.com for support.
Q: What if I don't have a lot of time? Or can't get started right away?
No problem at all. This course is self-guided, which means you can go at whatever pace makes sense to you and start whenever you'd like.
Q: How is the course delivered?
You'll have your own account to access the course. Inside the course, you'll find videos that correspond with each lesson, along with writen content, and homework assigments so you can start implementing the lessons learned immediately.
Q: How long does the course take?
The course is self-study. There are five modules inside the course and you can zoom through as fast or as slow as you'd like. However, the body image section (model 1) is set up to take 6 weeks long; it's recommended to follow along as outlined to get the most out of the course.
ARE YOU READY TO GET IN BED, WITH THE LIGHTS ON, FULLY EXPRESSED?
WHAT OTHER WOMXN HAVE TO SAY:
"Reading books on how to have a healthy relationship with sex and body image has never done anything for me; I find myself very disconnected from the author and lack the motivation to implement the offered practices into my life. Sex With the Lights On is a very workable and non clinical approach to cultivating a healthy relationship with your body and your sexual being. If you find yourself procrastinating on implementing healthy sex positive and body positive habits, this course is for you! Devon Moretti outlines week-to-week excersizes that are 100% do-able and will make a difference in how you feel about yourself."
-Rickhia Paulson
Sex with the Lights on has given me even more agency in the bedroom. I have never felt so comfortable in my body, present with myself and my partner, or open to communicating my desires. I'm feeling myself more than ever. What an amazing gift!"
- Rose Maire
Sex with the lights on gave me the confidence and validation I needed to truly step into my sexuality and OWN IT. Devon gets into every nook and cranny about the various, embarrassing & often times funny scenarios that can accompany sex - and she normalizes it all! That’s where the real value of this course came from for me - the realization that all the different things that can go wrong during sex (and the emotions that come with that) are completely normal. When I say this changed my life, I’M NOT KIDDING. My confidence has sky rocketed in the bedroom and I have the ability to communicate much more clearly and freely with my partner now than ever before in my life. Devon gives you actionable homework assignments so you really digest the take away points and can start implementing these life changes right away. She also includes videos in her segments which make the entire process extremely personable and intimate. I felt like she was with me the entire time step by step. THANK YOU DEVON! This was an investment that was WELL worth it. If you’re on the fence, do yourself a favor and invest in this WEALTH OF KNOWLEDGE. You won’t be disappointed.
- Amanda Edell
